I got a theory, finding a job is like finding a husband. You have to know yourself first than you know if the job is the right one for you. You want to be complete in the job, you want to rely on the job, you want to own the job. You don't want anyone to take over your job.
However, marriage is never a personal thing. After reading the wedding vow and exchange rings, you also made commitments to his family. Yes, this is my point, besides the job which you are in love with, the related people are just like the in-laws. There is never a perfect job, but you can always find something good enough as a job as long as you know yourself well enough. And you decide to take the offer and commit to the job. But right after the first few days of the work, you realize that the in-laws can be a nightmare. No matter how much you love the husband, you just can not deal with his mother or his father or both and you never become a family. The choice left for you is clear: having the husband divorce from the in-laws or simply from yourself!
This is the terrible scenario I am struggling in. The project I am working on is the charming guy and I would like to be with him for better for worse. However, his mother, the patronizing guy, is the last person in the world that I would like to be in contact with. Should I simply break up with him and find a new guy? Should I bear with his mother and see how far we can go? Although, different from the real marriage, there is never a custody problem, I still need to carefully consider if I really want to divorce my job and how to remarry one without in-laws.
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I vote for divorce!
ReplyDeleteThe in-laws (i.e., the patronzing guy of your project) are part of why your husband (the project) is the way he (it) is today. Since I don't see the in-laws leaving any time soon, and you need to take into consideration the slight risk that this guy might, not necessarily on purpose, ruin the project (part of you) in the future, I say ... there will always be some other perfect projects worth your time (your life) in a different time and place.
BTW being a geeky linguist working on the meaning of languages and all that ... if "dancing Argentina tango is like dating a guy" and "finding a job is like finding a husband", does that imply that "dancing Argentina Tango is like finding a husby"?
tango is my hottest mistress. :)
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